What You Can’t See in The Photo

This photo was taken last Tuesday on Hillcrest Road in Beverly Hills immediately after Rachael, Ray and I voted in the national election. Ray is taking the photo.


What you don’t know looking at the photo:

  1. I had just cried when I saw Hillary Clinton’s name – a woman’s name – listed as a serious presidential contender.
  2. I thought the Democrats are going to win because that’s what all the polls said.
  3. Ray, Rachael and I were excited that we were going to get to celebrate the election of the first woman president.4
  4. .I had seen just twenty minutes before a friend of Rachael’s from her school days who I hadn’t seen in at least 10 years and she was so pleased and happy to see Ray and me that she ran across the street to hug us. I was deeply touched by her reaction to seeing us.
  5. I had struck up a conversation with the man behind me in line at the polls who was impressed with the “cheat sheet” I had brought with me so I could be sure I voted as I planned, and Ray teased me that I was going to get kicked out for electioneering.
  6. Our next-door neighbor, who works all the elections, asked if either Ray or I could help with the polls. I had to work late, but Ray volunteered to come a little later in the day after he’d finished working, which he did. (He didn’t get home until almost 10 pm.)
  7. I ended up watching all the early returns alone, texting with my daughters and nephew.
  8. I didn’t want to use this photo because I thought I looked fat.

Since last Tuesday, I have gone through a grieving process, talked to a lot of people who were/are also grieving, watched national protests of the election results, learned that Hillary won the popular vote by over a million votes, and participated in a church gathering where many of our church members who are gay or transgender discussed their deep concerns about the potential loss of their rights under Trump.

I have also cooked and baked to supply comfort food for Ray and myself, have gone up to Ojai to see the Super Moon and have met with many students to continue work on their college essays that have a November 30/December 1 deadline.

I am proceeding with the belief that life is bigger than one election and a basic trust that we Americans know how to stand up and make our voices heard when we are unhappy. I have resolved to routinely contact my governmental representatives and let them know my thoughts and I am open to the idea of volunteering with organizations that reflect my beliefs related to climate change and equality for all. In other words, I am recognizing that I need to get more politically active.

Also, I am being honest about how I felt about my photo to publicly remind myself that my views on “fat” reflect an internalized message I have carried all of my life about what constitutes real feminine beauty. I pledge right now to combat those negative, small-minded ideas that continue to plague my self-esteem and recognize them for what they are – a marketing-based lie to women to keep all of us looking for that next new product to stave off weight gain and/or the aging process. I am tired of buying wholesale into that propaganda and resolve to stay on the alert for insidious invitations to buy back in.

That, my friends, is the rest of the story. A bit more than first meets the eye.

7 Comments Add yours

  1. This has been a tumultuous time for many. We will survive. ❤ ❤ ❤

  2. Pat Bean says:

    A true writer sees beneath the picture — and that’s why you are a great one. Hugs.

    1. Thank you, Pat Bean. That was a lovely message to read this morning. Big hugs to you.

  3. maya says:

    Keep the faith. Things might get worse before they get better, but we mustn’t be silent.

    1. No, we must not be silent! Agreed.

  4. Suzanne from Bonham says:

    Len, you are a beautiful woman…always have been and always will be. If you don’t believe me, you can asked anyone who has ever met you. You are a very lucky woman and loved by all!

    1. Thank you, Suzanne. That is a lovely thing for you to say. I appreciate your kind words.

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