Lately, I’ve discovered that I need some new coping skills. Between the constant news about yet another distressing national or international concern and juggling a few too many plates in the air, I have found myself worrying much more than usual. I also feel a bit overwhelmed at the many details that seem to demand my attention on a daily basis. In the past, I’ve handled these with ease, but right not, not so much. I am also very aware this isn’t a healthy way to live life or a good use of my precious brain-time. This is how I stumbled upon a new coping skill.

The other day, I found myself in a state of overwhelm. Too much to do, not enough time. Plus, the news was yet again downright depressing.

I did what I usually do in these times: took deep breaths, said a prayer, got myself in a quiet spot, listened to beautiful music. These all helped, but they weren’t quite doing the trick on their own. That’s when a voice in my head said, “Think of things you love.”

Okay, that couldn’t be a bad idea.

I thought of my grandkids’ faces, the light of the moon shining in the orange grove at night, the feel of the sun on my face, the scent of a rose, the sound of all the bees doing their work in our orchard with orange blossoms covering every tree. I immediately felt lighter, less burdened, more in control. I challenged myself to think of other things I love. The crunch of snow in winter, the sight of the red-tailed hawks gliding on the wind currents, the smell of freshly made toast, the taste of banana cream pie. Yes. I felt myself naturally breathe deeper not just once but several times, and my mind settled down.

I continued to think of other things I love. The LA Phil. Paris. The water of the Pacific nipping at my toes. Barbecue chicken.

Nothing major. Nothing life-changing. Just me shifting my thoughts to something that brings me pleasure rather than worry and concern.

Wow. What a discovery. I have since tried it a few more times, and it does indeed blow those dark clouds away and brighten up my day.

So, that’s my offering to you, my friends, for today. When in doubt, challenge yourself to think about only things you love. Just for a few minutes. Then just see how much easier life gets, even if nothing has changed except your focus and perspective. After all, focus and perspective are two things that are within your control. A lot of those other worries are not.

On that note, I bid you good night.