Sorry about my sudden drop-off related to posting, but over the past two weeks, multiple deadlines converged and left me scrambling to get everything done. Instead of writing in the evening, I fell into bed and slept. I can now happily say that crunch time is over and I’m feeling very happy about that. I will now return to my regular blog posting routine.

I attended a Story Circle Network poetry webinar on Saturday conducted by Ellen Birkett Morris that I enjoyed very much. One of the poems we read was entitled “Otherwise” by Jane Kenyon. Here it is:

Otherwise

I got out of bed
on two strong legs.
It might have been
otherwise. I ate
cereal, sweet
milk, ripe, flawless
peach. It might
have been otherwise.
I took the dog uphill
to the birch wood.
All morning I did
the work I love.
At noon I lay down
with my mate. It might
have been otherwise.
We ate dinner together
at a table with silver
candlesticks. It might
have been otherwise.
I slept in a bed
in a room with paintings
on the walls, and
planned another day
just like this day.
But one day, I know,
it will be otherwise.

Ironically or coincidentally (or both), tonight I opened a poetry book entitled Good Poems for Hard Times, selected and introduced by Garrison Keillor, and inadvertently opened the page to the poem, “Last Days” by Donald Hall. As I began reading it, I saw that it referenced the poet’s dying wife who had a poetry collection named Otherwise, and realized this was a poem about Jane Kenyon written by her husband, Donald Hall. It chronicles Jane’s recurrence of leukemia at age 48 and the last days of her life. It is poignant and dear, not the least bit sentimental or sappy.

I read it and simply couldn’t believe that these two people – Jane and her husband Donald – had suddenly appeared in my life through their poems. And to think they were telling me, a complete stranger, about this deeply personal experience of Jane’s last days. I am struck that this is the power of writing – to reach a stranger across space and time and create an emotional bond fueled by authentic life experience. Wow. That is remarkable, touching, and wonderful. I am in love.

Here is Donald Hall’s poem about Jane Kenyon.

Last Days
by Donald Hall

“It was reasonable
to expect.” So he wrote. The next day,
in a consultation room,
Jane’s hematologist Letha Mills sat down,
stiff, her assistant
standing with her back to the door.
“I have terrible news,”
Letha told them. “The leukemia is back.
There’s nothing to do.”
The four of them wept. He asked how long,
why did it happen now?
Jane asked only: “Can I die at home?”

Home that afternoon,
they threw her medicines into the trash.
Jane vomited. He wailed
while she remained dry-eyed – silent,
trying to let go. At night
he picked up the telephone to make
calls that brought
a child or a friend into the horror.

The next morning,
they worked choosing among her poems
for Otherwise, picked
hymns for her funeral, and supplied each
other words as they wrote
and revised her obituary. The day after,
with more work to do
on her book, he saw how weak she felt,
and said maybe not now; maybe
later. Jane shook her head: “Now,” she said.
“We have to finish it now.”
Later, as she slid exhausted into sleep,
she said, “Wasn’t that fun?
To work together? Wasn’t that fun?”

He asked her, “What clothes
should we dress you in, when we bury you?”
“I hadn’t thought,” she said.
“I wondered about the white salwar
kameez,” he said –
her favorite Indian silk they bought
in Pondicherry a year
and a half before, which she wore for best
or prettiest afterward.
She smiled. “Yes. Excellent,” she said.
He didn’t tell her
that a year earlier, dreaming awake,
he had seen her
in the coffin in her white salwar kameez.

Still, he couldn’t stop
planning. That night he broke out with,
“When Gus dies I’ll
have him cremated and scatter his ashes
on your grave!” She laughed
and her big eyes quickened and she nodded:
“It will be good
for the daffodils.” She lay pallid back
on the flowered pillow:
“Perkins, how do you think of these things?”

They talked about their
adventures – driving through England
when they first married,
and excursions to China and India.
Also they remembered
ordinary days – pond summers, working
on poems together,
walking the dog, reading Chekhov
aloud. When he praised
thousands of afternoon assignations
that carried them into
bliss and repose on this painted bed,
Jane burst into tears
and cried, “No more fucking. No more fucking!”

Incontinent three nights
before she died, Jane needed lifting
onto the commode.
He wiped her and helped her back into bed.
At five he fed the dog
and returned to find her across the room,
sitting in a straight chair.
When she couldn’t stand, how could she walk?
He feared she would fall
and called for an ambulance to the hospital,
but when he told Jane,
her mouth twisted down and tears started.
“Do we have to?” He canceled.
Jane said, “Perkins, be with me when I die.”

“Dying is simple,” she said.
“What’s worst is… the separation.”
When she no longer spoke,
they lay along together, touching,
and she fixed on him
her beautiful enormous round brown eyes,
shining, unblinking,
and passionate with love and dread.

One by one they came,
the oldest and dearest, to say goodbye
to this friend of the heart.
At first she said their names, wept, and touched;
then she smiled; then
turned one mouth-corner up. On the last day
she stared silent goodbyes
with her hands curled and her eye stuck open.

Leaving his place beside her,
where her eyes stared, he told her,
“I’ll put these letters
in the box.” She had not spoken
for three hours, and now Jane said
her last words: “O.K.”

At eight that night,
her eyes open as they stayed
until she died, brain-stem breathing
started, he bent to kiss
her pale cool lips again, and felt them
one last time gather
and purse and peck to kiss him back.

In the last hours, she kept
her forearms raised with pale fingers clenched
at cheek level, like
the goddess figurine over the bathroom sink.
Sometimes her right fist flicked
or spasmed toward her face. For twelve hours
until she died, he kept
scratching Jane Kenyon’s big bony nose.
A sharp, almost sweet
smell began to rise from her open mouth.
He watched her chest go still.
With his thumb he closed her round brown eyes.

Jane Kenyon and Donald Hall