Sometimes a person will ask me why I share my writing. “Isn’t it better, more pure, to write just for oneself and keep it tucked away?” My response is always the same, I share my writing because I want to create a link with other people. I believe in the healing power of connection through the written word, so I express my thoughts and feelings through fiction, memoir, creative nonfiction, and poetry.

Sharing my writing has helped me to form relationships with other people that would not have been possible without my willingness to share. When I write a piece and share it either on my daily blog or through publication, I often have responses from readers that touch me deeply. For example, I shared the eulogy I delivered at my sister’s funeral on my blog and routinely have people who have googled “How to Write a Eulogy” write to me and ask if they can use the format I used for my sister’s eulogy for their loved one who has recently passed away. I always write back as quickly as possible to let them know that I’m honored for them to use the format. I tell them that I’m happy my words have in some way brought them a bit of comfort during this painful time.

Exploring thoughts, feelings, and experiences on the page is my way of sorting life out, and when I share, I sometimes find another person who can relate to my sorting process. After all, no matter how different we may appear on the outside, inside we all want the same things: love, respect, and to feel seen. If I risk sharing, then there’s a higher probability that I will connect with others who will share too. When that happens, the chance for love, respect and feeling seen greatly increases. That’s a good thing.

For me, sharing + connection = happiness.